Friendship in a New Age

I used to think that as we got older, we changed the definition of friendship. For young kids, a friend is just about anyone you meet that hasn’t been mean to you yet. In high school, your friends are the people that you can stand for the longest period of time. In college, a friend is a person that shares your common interests. Out in business world, they become the people that you work with. Always, in life, friendship is controlled by the people you have access to. That is was just the way of the world. Then, along came the internet.

Friends we have never “met”

The internet really changed what friendship means. Where we were once basically forced to pick friends from the people we had access to that bugged us the least, now we have access to everyone. Now, we can choose the people that annoy us the least from a global pool. We can connect through common interests easily on social network sites like Twitter, Facebook and even Livejournal. It makes it a lot easier to find awesome people.

Its a new type of friendship

Some people are still stuck in the past and can’t accept that the new type of friendship is a true friendship. How do you consider someone your friend if you’ve never actually met them? How is it possible to consider someone your friend when you don’t even necessarily know their real name? How can you build a level of intimacy that is required to consider someone a true friend? I think these are questions that are easily answered by the people that get it. I’m sure some psychologist could give us a bunch of latin that explains it. I think, a small measure of anonymity gives us the courage to show our true faces. We share more of ourselves, because there is less risk.

Meeting real people

For the last couple of months, I’ve been actually been going out and doing things with people. These people, come from the internet. Its strange, how easy it is to talk to someone in person once you’ve been chatting with them for a while on Twitter. People I had never met already seemed somewhat familiar to me. I easily recognized their speech patterns and to some extent even their voices. It was easy to have a conversation, because we were already used to talking to each other. It was proof that internet friendships are a real thing. It is an easy transition from twitter to tabletops.

Its a new generation now, and there is no excuse for hiding yourself away from the rest of the world. There are tons of awesome people out there, its time to just meet them.

7 thoughts on “Friendship in a New Age

  1. I still have friends who I met while playing COH and then WOW. Our guild actually became a support system for each other when each of us went through some tough times. We still keep in touch and wish each other happy life events, and randomly email each other just to see how we’re doing. I know these people aren’t my tried and true, but they are part of an extended network that helps me to be the outgoing person I was when I was younger.

  2. I agree! In many ways, I think it is easier to find those “kindred spirits” online. I definitely feel that way about many of the people I met through Reverb 10, my writing group and twitter. Thanks for posting this as it is very true and I am very happy to consider you a friend!

  3. P.S. I can’t believe you don’t play WoW anymore. I love that game. 🙁

    1. I get that a lot. 😀

  4. Mark says:

    I’ve thought about the changing aspects of friendship over the years, never having once considered “online” friends in the equation as separate entities because they meet the definition of friendship in my view…

    But I get the same sort of questions you do. And my answers mirror yours.

  5. Stereo.* says:

    I’m one of the ones that “gets it”. I have met some truly amazing people through the mediums of online chat, Twitter and blogging. I might not have clapped eyes on them in person but they are definitely people that would cause me to feel a loss if they suddenly weren’t around anymore. I know that I’m still in the very early stages of most of my “online” friendships but I’m fully open to deepening connections and extending them to fully-fledged call-text-write-and-visit friendships. Consider yourself warned, my friend.

  6. Thank you all for your comments. Its great for me, who is a little bit introverted to be able to open up and share with some truly amazing people around the world. I assure you all, that one day when I am a millionaire jet setter, there will be sit downs at the very least!

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