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Fat Shaming – #ThingsFatPeopleSay

I’m fat.

I weigh 175 lbs more than the high-end of my ideal body weight (according to the Rush University Medical Center website).

According to some standard BMI calculators (which are extremely inaccurate) I have a BMI of 49.1%.

I have to pay extra for my clothes because of the size.

I live my life with just a bit more caution to avoid destroying chairs and desks just by sitting in them.

I have an unhealthy relationship with food that I struggle with.

It is something I have dealt with almost my entire life. It is part of who I am, and it is part of the struggle I live through.

I deal with these things because I have to. I deal with them because it is part of who I am. I work to make myself better for me. I work to be comfortable with who I am and what I am.

You know what I won’t do:

Allow you to shame me, or anyone else.

 

Now, don’t get me wrong. I have a sense of humor. I make jokes about being a fat kid all the time. I understand that it is easier to deal with issues when you do so with comedy.

I’m with you there.

At a certain point, though, things go from funny to cruel.

If you want to come here and make fat kid jokes with me, feel free. You can do it all day long, I don’t mind. I’m pretty comfortable with my size. Also, I’m way bigger than you, so if you get out of line, I’ll sit on you.

So, imagine that I thought there might be some clever jokes floating around the Twitter Trending Topic #ThingsFatPeopleSay.

I imagined that it would be full of jokes like:

or

http://twitter.com/narucotic/status/250901522223882240

Which I found extremely clever.

 

Those are the exceptions, though. What you actually get is an entire stream of condescending bullshit. The worst part is, these fat kid jokes aren’t really about being fat.

People equate fat with stupid.

 

I suppose in a way, I understand why.

It’s easy to know that diet and exercise are good for you, after all, reality television tells us that all the time.

I mean, if you go with Biggest Loser, all you need is a crash diet and heart damaging workout to get skinny.

That probably doesn’t have any long term health effects.

Of course, you could also go on a fad diet, like Atkins, because that’s good for your heart… or not.

You could also just get off your ass, right? Because exercise leads to weight loss, right?

It’s  good to know that scientists are working on this issue, since apparently they don’t know what the hell their talking about when it comes to diet and weight loss.

Seriously, just in case you need it again: Diets don’t work.

It’s okay.

I’m going to share with you some truths that are undeniable facts:

  • People are different.
  • Fat Shaming IS bullying.
  • Body weight and Mental Ability are rarely linked.
  • Yes, there is a difference between jokes and cruelty, and you’re on the wrong side of it.
  • Body Image Issues have a significant impact on happiness, but strangely size itself does not.
  • If you think it’s okay to make fun of fat people, you are an asshole!
  • Pizza rolls are still addictively delicious!

 

I’m not here to judge you for your behavior. You’ve all been swept up in the tide of ignorance and hate.

I just want you to realize that your self-indulgence has victims.

Fat kids are people, too.

I am fat, but I’m still human.

Can you say the same thing for yourself?

 

Published by M.A. Brotherton

M.A. Brotherton is a writer, blogger, artist, and fat-kid from the suburbs of Kansas City, Missouri. He’s tasted a little bit of everything the Midwest has to offer, ranging from meth-tweaking rednecks in massive underground cave complexes to those legendary amber waves of grain. When he’s not writing, he spends most of his time screwing around on the internet.

2 thoughts on “Fat Shaming – #ThingsFatPeopleSay”

  1. Stereo.* says:

    Timely and well-written, Matt. This is an issue that seems to be coming more to the fore a lot more these days and I’m glad to say that for most “OMG obesity will kill us all” pieces of sensationalist media, there is a fat-acceptance or reasoned argument/article to counter it. It’s refreshing and I wish people would take a little more time to educate themselves before assuming often ridiculous crap. Good on you for writing this!

    1. M.A. Brotherton says:

      If I had one goal in life, it would be to see Jillian Michaels behind bars. She is the worst offender of the fat-hating media sensations. She actually claims that because she was 10 lbs over weight at 14 she knows what it’s like to be fat… also that the secret to her success is basically anorexia and self loathing.

      This is a real issue that is literally killing kids.

      The worst part about it is that it feels endorsed by society and government.

      Fat Rights, Yo!

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