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Broken Hearts can be cured by diving back in

Technically, I’m still married. That’s a fact that haunts me just a little bit. At then end of February it will be have been two years since we split up. I haven’t really had any inclination to date since then, but here lately my friends have been pushing me a little bit harder to get back out there and start dating again. The current advice I’m getting is to create an OkCupid account.

Broken Heart
photo credit: CarbonNYC

I’ve never had an easy time meeting women. I’m not exactly what someone might call “smooth.” Combine that with the fact that I was in a relationship with my wife for something like six years, I don’t even know where to start in the whole singles scene. I do think that I’m finally starting to get to that place emotionally where I might be able to start trying to have a relationship again, but I’m not sure I’m ready for anything even remotely serious.

The problem is I don’t know how to be in a relationship that isn’t serious. I’ve only had one relationship that might be considered casual, and it was over ten years ago. All of these little hitches have me a little nervous about the idea of dating again. Of course, it isn’t much of a comfort that the biggest proponent of me dating again happens to be someone I consider a giant man-whore. That’s said with a great deal of love and respect, for the record.

I suppose the best answer is to get back on the horse and just throw myself back out there. Everyone’s got baggage, and I’m sure there are ladies out there who’s baggage compliments mine. Maybe I should just take the plunge.

Published by M.A. Brotherton

M.A. Brotherton is a writer, blogger, artist, and fat-kid from the suburbs of Kansas City, Missouri. He’s tasted a little bit of everything the Midwest has to offer, ranging from meth-tweaking rednecks in massive underground cave complexes to those legendary amber waves of grain. When he’s not writing, he spends most of his time screwing around on the internet.

2 thoughts on “Broken Hearts can be cured by diving back in”

  1. Tracy Ann Mangold says:

    Definitely. And be not afraid. Remember someone out there is feeling exactly – EXACTLY what you are feeling.

  2. littleyawps says:

    GAH. Relationships are so overrated. (Yes, I’m married, but, humor me for a moment, wouldja?)
    1. One need not be smooth. Fo shiz. Someday, I’ll blog the story of how I broke my own nose.
    2. Tell your friends to “Suck It.” Nothing good ever came of being fixed up or forced into awkward situations.
    2a. That said: I do counsel you to get out there. I don’t know you, but if you’ve been hiding under a rock, shunning social interaction and keeping yourself hidden from the world, those friends may have a small (albeit, misguided point.)
    3. Any workable relationship (romantic, friendly, work-related…ANY) is totally organic. Each one builds on its own. Trust that. It’ll be serious or easy or fleeting or maddening on its own merits. No relationship requires specific knowledge.

    Throw what you “know” out the window. Be IN the world. What you’re looking for will find you.

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